Prepare for a hard conversation with your manager

What you're asking for, what they'll push back with, and what you're willing to trade.

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I need to have a conversation with my manager.

What I need to raise: I've been doing two people's jobs since Dan left in May and nobody has said anything about it. I'm not coping and I'm starting to look elsewhere.
What I want out of it: either they backfill Dan by the end of the quarter or they take the reporting work off me
What they're like: avoids conflict, agrees in the room then nothing happens. Under budget pressure and I know a hire is hard right now.
What I'm afraid they'll say: that everyone's stretched right now and to hang on a bit longer

Help me go in prepared, not scripted.

Give me:
1. How to open. Two sentences that say what this is about, so they aren't guessing for ten minutes.
2. The two points I must get said even if the conversation goes badly.
3. Their most likely pushback, written in their words, including the one I'm afraid of. Under each, what I actually say back. Don't make my reply clever, make it something I could say while nervous.
4. What I should be willing to trade, and what I shouldn't. If what I'm asking for isn't realistic given what I told you about their pressures, say so and give me the version that is.
5. How to end it so something happens. What specifically I ask them to commit to, and when I follow up.

If they agree in the room and nothing changes, tell me what I do next. That's the outcome I'm most likely to get.

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What you get: An opening, the pushback in their words with your reply, and what to do when they agree and nothing happens.

Their pushback in their words

Rehearsing your side is easy and useless. The conversation goes wrong at the moment they say the thing you were afraid of, so that's the moment worth preparing. Naming what you fear feeds it straight into the practice.

The last line is there because "they agreed and nothing changed" is the most common ending, and almost nobody plans for it.

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